Father Skills
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
In the movie We Were Soldiers, there is a scene in a chapel where one of the young lieutenants has become a father and he is contemplating how this is going to impact his life. His superior, Lt. Col. Hal Moore (played by Mel Gibson) comes in to congratulate him. The new father seeking some wisdom, turns to the Colonel and says, “What do you think of being a soldier, and a father?” Colonel Moore thinks for a minute and says, “I think being good at the one makes me better at the other.”
I had a unique opportunity the other day to put this idea to the test.
We were out on patrol in our MRAP Maxxpro. In our vehicle there was a driver, TC, I'm the gunner, and 4 soldiers in my platoon in the back. There are two seats on either side of the interior of the vehicle with the seats facing each other. Everyone in the vehicle wears, in addition to full battle-rattle, a Bose headset with a mic so we can hear each other and communicate.
We were moving through a village and having a conversation when all of the sudden one of the soldiers interrupts us in a very strained tone, “I have the bubble-guts!” He is hunched over in the back, with his hands on his stomach.
Our TC says, “Are you okay? Can you make it to the FOB we are only 10 minutes away?”
“Ohhh…I’ve got the bubble guts,” comes the reply, with the soldier still hunching forward and backwards, “No, I can’t wait that long.”
“Okay, lets just get through this village and we will pull over.”
Unable to wait even two more minutes, the soldier quickly unbuckled his seat belt. He climbed over the three other passengers, squatted, dropped his drawers and proceeded to attempt to accurately place, not a #2, but a #27 in a plastic bag while in a moving vehicle. Let’s just say his attempt had very limited success. Very limited.
Mind you there are no windows in an MRAP, so needless to say the stench was overwhelming. Luckily, I'm in the turret with my head outside the vehicle in the fresh Afghan air. But I did get to hear all the coughing and gagging due to the pungent aroma. We were all laughing hysterically due to the absurdity of the situation.
After we pulled into our final destination and exited the vehicle in record time, we were able to do a battle damage assessment. There was a rather thick, chunky brown syrup over a good portion of the floor and the steps to the ramp. Clean up anyone?
News spread of the defecating disaster and the other soldiers had to come see and smell for themselves. Yup, it was poop. Yup, it was gross. Yup, it was everywhere. Clean up anyone?
The poor soldier wasn’t finished with his business and ran off to the bathroom. I couldn’t stand to wait any longer, so I went off to grab cleaning supplies. Somewhere along the way I decided I would clean it up. It wasn’t because I wanted to, not because I was told to, but because that’s what a father does. He cleans up when there is a mess, no matter what kind it is.
So, I put on gloves, got the bleach, the pine-sol disinfectant, the air freshener, and bottles of water and went to work. I cleaned it up thoroughly, and honestly much to my surprise it didn’t bother me that much. I guess after cleaning up loads of messy diapers and explosions up the back, you kind of lose the paralyzing disgust of poop and realize its not the end of the world. It’s a skill I didn’t know I had and can only attribute to acquiring it through fatherhood. I guess, “being good at the one, does make you better at the other.”
How about you? Had a similar experience? Has parenting taught you skills you didn’t have before?